Life, karma and validation . . .

2018_10-09, Karma

Karma, everyone mentions her name now and again. She’s quite the gal. Personally, I’ve learned to love her, even though she’s bitten me once or twice throughout this lifetime full of blessings, and the occasional tumultuous event thrown in for the measure of good story, and a healthy dose of wisdom.

“Life is what we make it.”

“Life is abundance.”

“Life is our vision in reality.”

“Life is for living.”

“Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.”

“Life is about creating yourself.”

“Life goes on.”

“May you live every day of your life.”

“If you’re reading this… congratulations, you’re alive. If that’s not something to smile about then I don’t know what is.”

At one time I prayed for wisdom – I wanted to be wise over everything else. And, the universe delivered – many trials and tribulations resulted in a need for wisdom to produce the best outcome.

After praying for wisdom, and understanding, and depth of spirit – I realized these desires are acquired through practical experience and our reaction to it. If we are praying for wisdom but do not practice it – we are provided greater opportunities to experience the need for it and to learn from those needs until we achieve what we have asked the universe to deliver.

Karma also delivers . . .

The Bible states:

The Lord passed before him and proclaimed, “The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, keeping steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, but who will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children and the children’s children, to the third and the fourth generation.”

Isn’t that a hefty dose of karma? For a long time I’d believed that Heavenly Father was enacting cruel and unusual punishment upon the Saints for iniquity of the fathers visiting the children and the children’s children, but in learning more about wisdom, I came to understand poor qualities , negativity, iniquity, transgressions, sin, wrongful acts, criminal behavior, chemical dependencies, adultery, etc. naturally affects in an adverse way children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc. It isn’t so much Heavenly Father’s vindictive as it is that the acts of a generation within family, community, regions, nations and the world have an effect on their offspring that takes generations to repair. It is a natural outcome.

The idea of what we put into the universe returns to us is a natural phenomena of life. If we awake to bless the day and remain thankful for our circumstance while envisioning an expanding universe – it is natural for our universe to expand. If we do so with clarity of mind and goodness in our heart, then our expansion is beneficial.

Conversely, if we perform negative acts, attempt to hide them, and set a course toward an expanding universe riddled with addiction, crime, negativity, poor intentions, wrong-doing – karma returns those elements to us in multiplex. It isn’t even a good thing to talk about.

So where is the validation in all of this?

Well, if you have been through a rough patch while remaining diligent with positive acts, benefiting the people you encounter, sending good vibes, believing in affirmative outcomes, going into your prayer closet and moving toward an expanding universe of abundance . . . the universe hears you, the magnetics of life receive you, Heavenly Father restores you and your prodigy and their future generations reap the just reward.

Eventually, if you hold fast and continue in faith, things will align and even those wrongful deeds you may have sustained unwittingly or without cause will be unearthed and disclosed. Karma will result, and the ultimate power will be your own expanded vision, and the joy of the wisdom of understanding, because life delivers the meaning you place on it . . .

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About the author: Ms. Donna L. Quesinberry is a resident of Carthage North Carolina, and lives in the Historic District in the J. F. Cole House, created in 1889. Originally from the metropolitan Washington DC area, she has resided in Hawaii, California, Florida, Virginia, and Maryland. Donna has published in excess of twenty thousand journalistic quality publications and was a syndicated columnist for many years, including business documentation and solicitations as well as books and poetry. She is a mother of five successful adult children and Grandmere’ to eleven (11) les enfants petits. Currently, she is working on a new book while publishing authors’ works, performing grant and proposal efforts and continuing as a publication guru.

Visit: http://www.donnaink.com or http://www.donnalquesinberry.com to learn about Ms. Quesinberry’s business pursuits.

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Pivotal moments in the lives of women

Pivotal moments in the lives of women

PR Log Press Release, by Ms. Donna L. Quesinberry

Ms. Donna L. Quesinberry, CEO – President of DonnaInk Publications, L.L.C., a fledgling Indie publishing initiative, shared the written word relative to child abuse and neglect, domestic violence and sexual assault, which is pivotal “in the now.”

Stolen Lullabies and Secret Impasses, by Donna L. Quesinberry

CARTHAGE, N.C.Sept. 25, 2018PRLog — Talking about child abuse and neglect, Stolen Lullabies and Secret Impassesdomestic violence and sexual assault is never an easy accomplishment, especially when you’ve been exposed to one or the other of these hurtful topics. Statistics tell us, every one of us has experienced, or have a close association with someone who has experienced all three, one or classically two of these travesties that the majority of us like to believe we’ve grown “past.” Presently, these are pivotal moments in the lives of women “and the men they know.”

In today’s employment, entertainment, political and religious industries or practices, we are hearing story after story that reach down into the inner core of our beings. People who have suffered injustices, abuse, neglect, mayhem, torture, blackmail in the guise of sexual perpetuity are being thrown into the media daily. Initially, people were appalled, then revolted and crying for retribution and “now” folks are beginning to suggest it is too much.

Why all this “coming out” against abuse, assault, neglect and violence anyhow?

Why didn’t all these people speak up when the acts occurred?

Haven’t we had enough of these latent revelations of injustice?

If it hurt so much, they would have said something way back when?

These must be lies . . . These stories are embellished . . . This cannot be true . . .  After all, we’ve known that priest our entire life. The newscaster has been exemplary in every other way. No one said anything about this when he was on syndicated reality television. The family should have stopped him before he blew up the house. She could have left the backyard at any time. It is only when s/he is being elected these folks come out of the woodwork . . .
Why should I care?
It was just a century ago when marriage between cousins was still an acceptable act in some states and countries – it may still be legal in a few nations. It was just a century ago that slavery was accepted. It was less than a century ago that desegregation occurred. It was only within the past century women earned the right to vote. In the previous century children were permitted to work, indentured service was permitted (and is somewhat permitted today through immigration), women did not work outside the home, the glass ceiling was like steel, men held private clubs and associations, and television aired programs depicting women stayed at home, men held jobs, alternative lifestyles didn’t exist, we forgave indiscretions because a) we never heard of them or b) they were overlooked.

In the book, “Stolen Lullabies and Secret Impasses,” the author, Ms. Donna L. Quesinberry, uses poetry to exculpate sexual assault from her memory banks onto the published page. And, her work is timely because through her poetry, which her mentor stated reminded him of Hermann Hesse . . . with backstories and prior reviews . . . she inadvertently answers the questions ringing in the media “today.” The reasons for waiting are many and real and visceral and have a pulse that makes sense when readers and pundits care to understand.

If you are interested in learning the “why’s” of latent disclosure regarding abuse, assault, neglect and violence – take a moment to leaf through this title that is easily digested in an afternoon. Afterward, revisit the burgeoning revelations regarding these vile topics and our universal history of sweeping them under the rug, before discarding them in the current hour.

Stolen Lies and Secret Impasses, by Ms. Donna L. Quesinberry is available at http://www.donnaink.com for biggest discount and it is also available on major online retailers (i.e.: AMAZON, Barnes & Noble, Kindle, etc.).

#metoo #sexual assault #women

Media Contact
DonnaInk Publications, L.L.C.
601 McReynolds Street, Carthage, NC 28327
donnaink@gmail.com

 

Audience

There was a time when I knew my audience innately and writing flowed to and Increasing Readershipthrough them but what happens if your audience changes? Recently, I’ve come to want more from my writing for the sake of audience and desire to include greater shares of readers. Albeit, this is altogether different than the audience changing, it is more closely related to an expanding horizon of readers.

 

How do you increase readership in a basic sense?
The answer is multi-fold. First, good writing. Second, consistent writing. Third, writing what you know and then, writing about what you know. It goes without saying, if you want readers to grow in number, your content must warrant them. In today’s quick-pace publishing landscape, how often do you see one novel from an author clearly well-edited that you thoroughly enjoyed; so much so, you research the author to learn more and find their website, blog, random media and additional materials. Taking a closer look you clearly note their Internet work is unedited and sometimes poorly written . . .  I don’t know about you but when this happens to me, I’m often disparaged and curious as to the variable. It makes for a tenuous budding reader interest on my part. The best use of every writer’s spare time is to “clean it up” on the Internet – make certain everything rings with a bell of clarity and consistency, with proper editing, featuring researched topics.

A mortal literary sin I’ve fallen victim to, is lack of consistency, not in relativity of accurate data but in seeming bursts of material followed by hiatus’ that can really put-off readers. And, I know it is a folly of mine, I’ve had since elementary school. When you have good writing that is relative throughout all your media with content you can even brag about – don’t stop there. Keep your eye on the ball, keep it in play, stay the course, move the game forward.

Expressly, if you are a blogger or entertaining syndicated columnist or features writer . . . don’t shirk readers with five weeks of effort followed by three weeks of off the radar. Readers have a synergy with writers, especially columnists and/or bloggers. People used to laugh at Internet bloggers when they came on the scene, the “Oh she’s just a blogger” was a chiding remark heard round about under the breath between others. Today, it is obvious, bloggers often experience take-off careers with par excellence! And, they earn them through consistent and loyal presentation.

Of course, writing Rules 101 states, “Write what you know.” Novice authors often think, “Well, I’m from XYZ, haven’t traveled the world, only know ABC, how can I write what I know and be compelling?” It seems like a reasonable question. Writing what you know is about morphing experience for reader consumption. For instance, you reside in a small town. All around you are characters and monumental visual imagery to share with readers – so many stories – so detailed and so riveting – so much so they entertain an entire landscape for generations. In writing what you know, take the bits and create original characters, combine some stories, take out the boring part, put your genre of spin on it and create a new community that is all your own that your readers will love to share. Or, if you are from the city, with its diversity, developing universal intonation when wielding the pen should come naturally, you can speak to the world – you know its characters.

So, content, consistency and knowing your story grabs readers who, in turn, share what entertains them and expands your reach.

How do you make a pivotal shift toward greater audience without compromising your writing style?
Your style is your own. Every writer is special in that regard. Many emerging authors start out wanting to write like a previously famous author and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing – eventually their own voice emerges – but for a surety, all writers have a method that is theirs. The glory of a literary or nonfiction writing career, is the art. Every keystroke belongs to the writer who strikes it – just as every brush stroke belongs to the artist holding the paint brush.

Expanding your audience isn’t a sell-out. I know a famous artist who has famous artists for relatives. His family members market their work and earn a great living doing so but my friend believes it is a sell-out to broaden audience through sales and marketing. He believes his art should speak for itself. It is the classic, starving artist syndrome and while I see both viewpoints – I know the art is best served viewed. Regardless of what comes first, art or marketplace, each is essential to the audience – without the art their is no market and without marketing their is no realization of the art’s existence. The same is true for writers. In thinking of audience, and growth, you are not duping readers – you are privileging readers to have greater awareness and access to your work!

It isn’t a sell-out to increase readership through expanding writs within and around genre, target and secondary markets.

It is my hope we all reap our greatest intended rewards regarding our art and our audience!

About the Author:
Ms. Donna L. Quesinberry is a mother, daughter, sister and friend. Donna
has five adult children and eleven grand-children. She also has two dogs
(Scuddle and Charlotte) from two states, and four cats (Cali, Garfield,
Jersey and Lucious), from three states. And, she’s thinking about getting a
goat and some laying hens in 2019. Ms. Quesinberry is also a federal proposal
and grant writer, business developer and capture administrator through dpInk
Ltd. Liability Company as Founder and CEO. She has a small publishing initiative through DonnaInk Publications, L.L.C. as CEO and President. She has an inactive partnership, Developmental Arts and Community Services, L.L.P. as a General Partner and manages an Airbnb at the J. F. Cole House (J. F. Cole Mercantile, since 1889) in the historic district of downtown Carthage, North Carolina, where she is the Proprietor / Host along with her son, Mr. Hatcher who has a work-related traumatic brain injury (TBI) post-insult fifteen years. Donna has written and published works since childhood. She has over 10,000 published stories to her name. She is a former syndicated columnist, online university course instructor, author, poet and journalist/stringer and story writer. Her second volume of a poetic series is being released fall 2018 and a year plus over-due.

 

The Rumor Mill

Carthagians,

Just spent a week in the hospital after too much stress, too much grief, too much hardship, too much heartache, too many issues, and too much negativity . . . for being too generous, too kind, too helpful, too visionary, too realistic, too honest and too positive. Not my monkey. For paying someone a year in advance – I got a year of hell. For helping someone back on their feet – I got ripped off. For seeing beyond a past toward a future – I got slashed tires. And, I did not create any of it.

With almost three full days of ICU in the heart center . . . come out on the other side and what do I hear? I was partying too hard and overdosed. Not so! No party. No abuse of drugs. No substance issues here . . .

Nearly died and not from fun.

One thing I can say, ICU and acute care was the most relaxation and non-stress I’ve had since May of 2017.


Today is a new day. The sun will rise in the a.m.

The Sun Will Rise and So Will I

 

Speaking of women and Carthage North Carolina

Ladies, what is up?

Residing here in Carthage, was for me, initially, a jolt to my sensibilities. Coming from Washington DC with some crossover to Santa Barbara, San Diego, Orlando and even New York City, Boston, etc. my  inner child is used to city walks, cafes, large museums, subways, and population. Running the freeway is like an Indy 500 and an Army obstacle course simultaneously. And, yes, we do have the Chesapeake Bay, lakes, camping areas, etc. with Front Royal West Virginia only a hop, skip and a jump away . . . but it is a far cry from the serenity that is Carthage.

When I first relocated to Carthage, my brother asked me:

Just how small a town is it that you live in Donna?

My response:

If I buy seeds at one end of town, when I’m shopping in the other end they ask me when I’m planting my garden.

And, that’s not a stretch of the imagination for a local – you know what I mean. However, over time, believe it or not, Carthage has grown on me. I’ve come to love it here. I bought a historic home. Have a nice view from my kitchen window that I need a step stool to see out. I have a business I can walk or bicycle to (plan to this summer). It is just wonderful. I’ve gotten to know a lot of really cool artisans, authors, entertainers and folks here. And, I’ve even adjusted to the decreased populace – now when I go to DC I am anxious to return to Carthage for peace and quiet. Go figure.

But ladies – I have some questions / thoughts regarding our sensibilities here

In participating in varied guises such as court, business, relationships and politics I see a very strong double-standard that women ourselves seem to embrace here. I’m curious as to “why?”

For instance, I recently dated someone younger than me. Now this was unusual for me, due to the age difference, but in comparing my situation to many men I’ve known locally – it is “not” uncommon for men here to date women much younger than them and much younger than my own situation and ladies – you don’t bat an eyelash over that.

Yet, the rumor mill has been spinning on speed dial regarding a woman doing something that traditionally, here in the South, men have done for decades without issue. So, my question is, “why are we hurting one another?” Instead of saying, “Well you know Mr. Peterson (fictitious name) was dating Sally Mae (fictitious name) and she’s 35 years younger than him – if he can do it – why can’t a woman?” No one says nay a word about his dating but make uber declarative statements when it is a woman who is older. Instead of speaking to double-standards, ladies get together and rally gleeful laughter and/or conversational chiding or sport . . . at their sister’s expense.

And, that isn’t the only incident of women not defending women

I hear a lot of stories of cheating and men hustling ladies here and I am curious:

Why don’t women begin calling men out who attempt to cheat or hustle women? Why are we not sisters in womanhood first and attracted to men second? Why are we allowing bad men more leeway than we do our lady friends and neighbors?

 

Addressing and changing generational cultural misnomers

Ladies, we need to step our game up and begin changing generational cultural misnomers. Men shouldn’t cheat. Men shouldn’t have greater leeway and less culpability. Men shouldn’t be able to run games on women. And, if we know of men who do, are, have, might, may or could . . . we owe it to one another to air the linens and share the truth. Don’t we? Can’t we be the lights in our village?

What will be the result?

First, men will begin being more accountable.

Second, women will stop being demeaned and left holding the bag.

Third, our children will see new and improved relations and develop greater sensibilities.

Fourth, our town will be the better for it.

I’ve always said, a man couldn’t cheat if a woman wouldn’t say yes to him and vice versa, of course. If a man can date someone 35 years his junior, so can a woman. If a man can have his cake and eat it too, then either women need to cut his calories, or get equal portions.

IMG_7899Equality ladies – it starts in our minds. It begins in our hearts and actions. The next time you see another woman in a dilemma – take stock of your sensibilities – be a solution – help one another rise to the occasion. Lift one another up. And, be the Christlike example of love and empowerment regardless of your opinion regarding a matter. Be a cure. Be a resolve. Be more than a joke and a chuckle.

That’s what I’m asking Carthagian ladies this week . . . think about it.

Remember to be kind to one another. Hold your head high. Support local small businesses. Share love and thanksgiving. Hug your family and friends. Give peace a chance.